Thursday, February 27, 2014

Kids and sewing - the hows, whys and wonderings


My daughter and stepdaughter (both 9) just finished sewing their first ever garments. PJ pants in our Bastia Red and Bastia Navy (available Melbourne, and also available in Ink). The bulk of the sewing on these was done during a private lesson and I was happy to pick up their eleventh-hour sewing slack by finishing off the hems. Hey, I could relate - we've all wished some sewing fairy could step in at that stage. I've sewn for and with both the girls, with varying levels of involvement. And, not to leave the stepboy out, try to get him involved too. He likes to pick the fabric and therein lies the extent of both his interest and involvement. Lego beckons, you know, unless he can put his foot on the pedal.


The girls are definitely more interested in the finer details of technique, one slightly more so than the other, but it's certainly the final product that holds most appeal to each one of the kids. Now patient-earth-mother-in-abundance I am not. I'd love them to be more involved and interested but, in the spirit of honest blogging, I'm equally happy for them to bugger off and leave me to sew in peace. If I had the space, I'd leave their sewing machine out (they use my old one) all the time so they could come and go at it as they pleased. But right now that's not even a possibility for me and my machines so they'll just have to get in line behind moi. Plus there's still an element of supervision which needs to happen at their sewing age and that time/patience is often hard to come by.


The other thing which drives me bananas is that, when I sew with them, they are far, FAR, FAAAAARRRR more likely to ask "Can you do this part/stitch/bit for me?" whereas, in private lessons, they'll have a crack, follow through and Get. It. Done. Mistakes in class? No problem. Mistakes at home? "I just caaaaaaan't do it!"


When I reflect back on my own personal sewing journey, I'm the very definition of a 'late bloomer'. The creative subjects in school were the ones that held so much more of my interest and yet my secondary schooling did very little to squeeze my creative juices. I have only two crystal clear memories of craft classes during those years:

- the time I said 'shit' and got the most inane, lengthy lecture from the teacher about how awful a word it is and it's actual origins (if you were wondering, the story involved a cow). Whatever Mrs T. And SERIOUSLY?! TELL ME ANYONE WHO DOESN'T UTTER THAT AT LEAST A BAJILLION TIMES ONCE DURING A SEWING PROJECT!!!

- the time my friends and I were so mind bending-ly bored we wrote a little ditty using the snippets of conversation heard around the craft room. I can't remember what I was making at the time but around 27 years later, I still remember that song and it went like this:

What fine mmmmm what rainbow what
Cathy good, Cathy good
Manda yep yep huh nothing else,
Where's the survey?

So, yeah, in my case 'school' and 'teachers' are most definitely NOT on the 'Sources of Inspiration' list.  It wasn't until I had my daughter that the sewing spark truly took hold. Why it did then I don't really know. I'm inclined to think it was mostly about timing. I'd sewn a couple of small and successful(ish) projects, started to read some really inspiring blogs and, at that time in my life, I really needed an outlet that took me away from parenting, my (pre Tessuti) professional life and the more challenging personal stuff that was swirling all around me. 

 

That said, my experiences of life, parenting and the path I took to this sewing caper lead me to completely get that you can't ever make someone love something, be it sewing or anything else. But are there things you can try to do which gently foster an interest? Plant that slow-growing seed? I'd love to hear all about your journey into the world of sewing. Was the spark lit for you as a child, by someone or some thing? When did it 'click' for you? Have you succesfully passed that sewing torch on to someone without burning them? Feel free to pass on any tips on good kids' sewing projects as well. Got a blog and want to write a similarly themed post? Leave your link in the comments section because we'd love to share your thoughts and comments down the track.

14 comments:

  1. Loved this post, thank you. I was told off by my 10yo son the other day as I haven't taught him to sew yet. I think he is interested in the machine and probably less so in the creative process but I could be wrong. I should rectify this on the weekend and give him a lesson, having purchased the fabric for a library bag ages ago.
    I too was a late bloomer to sewing, however was always crafty having taught myself crotchet, knitting, cross stitch, etc. My background is Dutch and my grandmothers and mother used to sew and craft so it's probably in my genes. I started sewing in my twenties and as a gen x always felt like the odd one out as it wasn't cool to craft then. I would turn up to sewing events and was about 20 years younger than everyone else! I absolutely love sewing and hope to pass the love on to my children. Ingrid

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    1. Ah yes Ingrid, i think there are MANY children who find more appeal in 'driving' the sewing machine. Late bloomer or early bloomer, I'll be happy either way

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  2. I'm just starting to feel like I should get my girls involved more with my sewing. My eldest is 5.5yrs and she likes to pick fabric, draw dresses, and on (a few painful) occasions has sat down to a lesson of hand stitching with me, but otherwise, I much prefer to do my own sewing. I also face the same....caaaan't do its at home, but private lessons of anything, no worries! Frustrating when you know very well you have the capabilities of teaching them....although I do know that I lack the patience to be a decent teacher.

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    1. Oh the joys (not) of handstitching with children....

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  3. The sewing "spark" was lit for me as a child by my Nanna. She would suggest projects we could do togther and with each new project came new skills. I now run workshops teaching kids how to sew and I think the same principal applies. I think the project needs to be quick and achievable. Lovely to see the confidence kids have after completing a project.

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    1. I agree Jo, the satisfaction they have at project's end is unbeatable!

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  4. I always used to take my grandchildren to Spotlight to choose their pj material. My little grand-daughter absolutely loved being taken to Spotlight and when she went on a "Farm Stay" holiday the farmer who was their host promised he would take them out that night with the 'spotlight'. Poor little darling was so disappointed when she was loaded into the back of a ute and shown the actual spot light and realized he wasn't actually taking her to Spotlight shopping for material!

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  5. excellent post! my two oldest daughters (9.5 and 8 yrs) have begged me to let them sew, and i begrudgingly take time once every few months to let them have a go at it. the oldest doesn't really have the dexterity yet to progress quickly, but my 8 yr old definitely does. i got her interested in hand sewing small toys to occupy her, but she keeps begging... i always feel guilty brushing her off so i can work on my own projects! i think a second sewing machine is in order, because i most certainly want them to learn these skills!

    for myself, i grew up around my mom sewing, but i can't say it ever occurred to me to sew for myself. in high school i was forced to take a really lame sewing class, and i did sew a couple things for myself (pants, oddly enough, were one of my first projects). but the real spark didn't ignite until several years ago when my skills progressed past what i needed to make kid halloween costumes. any more, i make as much as i can to lessen RTW clothing purchases, and to stave off my stay at home mom restlessness!

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  6. Jen in Sunny (?!) MelbourneMarch 1, 2014 at 5:05 PM

    My Mother used to sew (and I think her mother did too) a lot. I have a letter that I wrote to my grandfather when I was probably around 10 where I mentioned that Mum had made a dress to wear to a function, and that I hoped that one day I'd be able to sew like that.
    But by the time I was old enough (in her eyes) to learn to use the machine, she was back at work and didn't have time to teach me. The very first assertive thing I ever did was to find a summer holiday sewing programme and make sure that Mum enrolled me in it. To her dying day she was upset that they didn't emphasise cutting off loose threads and tidying up the finished work.
    These days I sew a LOT. I recently catalogued my stash and when I realised that I had enough fabric to carpet our (BIG!) backyard, I swore off buying anything new (except lining etc for a current work-in-progress) until I had used up more of the stash. I'm now down to just over 470square metres, and have sort of started buying fabric again. Hey, I never swore not to buy more patterns!
    My daughter never truly appreciated my sewing abilities. This was brought home to me when one day she came home from dance class telling me that she would be in a competition in two weeks and needed a costume for it. I made her choose the fabric and the pattern (from the stash) and made her the dress... AND SHE NEVER B****Y WORE IT!!!!!!!!! I don't sew for her anymore. She wouldn't even LET me consider making her graduation dress (I got even by making her choose the dress that was under $100 and then buying myself a dress online for over $150).
    Oh, and I bought a cheap machine for when my notoriously dodgy Janome embroidery/sewing machine was in service. When I brought the Brother machine home, he picked it up and said, "It's not heavy, It's my Brother."

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    1. Thanks Jen. We see many mother/daughters (and sometimes sons) who've gone through a period of I-don't-want-mum-to-sew-my-clothes. I hope it passes, although that would mean less sewing time for you so maybe not...?

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  7. My first "garment" was an apron, I was really proud of it, however it wasn't machined, it was all handsewn, I gained my Brownie Sewing badge because of it. I made a blouse when I was 11. I am so impressed that the girls have made pyjama trousers, they look great. They should be proud of them, I want a pair now:)

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    1. Thanks Chrissie. I hope you still have that handsewn apron!

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